Empowering Dads, Enriching Families

The Paper Test: Working to Create a More Equitable Household

A Free “Dad Guide”, Proven to Reset Expectations at Home

You may think you know what your spouse handles at home. But do you really?
Does your spouse know what you do?

Misunderstandings about who does what at home don’t just create tension – they affect your focus, your well-being, and your ability to succeed at work and in life.

In The Paper Test: Working to Create a More Equitable Household, we introduce a fast, eye-opening exercise to help couples align on household responsibilities—without blame, shame, or guesswork.

We show how this small act of writing things down can open the door to healthier communication, reduced stress, and stronger partnership.

Inside, you’ll find:

  • A guided activity to help you and your partner compare responsibilities with clarity, not conflict
  • Research and data showing why division of labor matters—and what’s really at stake
  • Simple prompts to support meaningful conversations, not arguments

This isn’t a test you can fail. it’s a tool that helps you get on the same page. 

Because when home life works better, everything else starts to, too.

The work begins with paper. Let’s start.

What is a Lead Dad?

Lead Dads are men who are the go-to parents, whether they work full time, part time, or devote all their time to their families. They support their spouse’s careers, change diapers, plan pediatrician appointments, and generally get stuff done. They may feel isolated but there are over 25 million of them in America today. That’s a third of all fathers.

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About the Company of Dads

The Company of Dads is a community and an advocate for the Dad who is the lead parent in his family. We call him a Lead Dad. It can be a lonely role at home and an undercover one at work. We offer resources, support, and community, so Lead Dads feel connected to other men doing the same thing. We go to bat for Lead Dads in the community and within companies. Small changes in perception or policy can have a big impact, and taken together they can help families fulfill their full potential.

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